When I think back how love was initially generated in my life, it's from my mother in a myriad of ways ... This is interactive, creative and unfolding - and this gives rise to neural cascades of pleasure over many years. My mother's love was very caring. And while I can still generate love, in the sense of neural cascades of pleasure, or neurophysiology, by turning on the music, for example, it's not the same.
So now as an adult, without children yet, and based on my past experience, it's women who are generators of love and in relation to a kind of chemistry of relating. In the case of my mother, her love was natural and the result of biology, but mediated culturally with words, symbols, music, stories, expressions of caring and thoughtfulness, for us a kind of whole. Having been loved by women, and loved them as an adult, it's both this interactive chemistry and women generating this that seem so important, vis-a-vis understanding how love, in these senses, works.
So these days, when I feel a lack or dearth of love, and wonder about the cello bow stroke, or on-off switch, for such brain chemistry, I imagine 9 hours of love a day brain or bodymind neurophysiology will occur with reciprocal chemistry with a great partner. And I think this will develop over decades and be very different years later.
But it's hard to point to a myriad of real life examples, where people or couples have been able to co-generate crescendoing love through decades, as models, and to people~couples to learn from; mutual affection over decades, yes, but not rocking-out musical love of the mind-turning, bodymind-expanding, or mind-bending variety.
With a dearth of love ... and as an adult, how to generate love profoundly, and in~for having a family ... ? A good focus? ... perhaps a great one if it's possible to share what you and I learn, via kinds of conversation, and develop this is unfolding new ways ...
Caring and Loving ~
Loving Bliss (eliciting this neurophysiology) ~