Common Atlantic Slippersnail: Friendliness & Troopbonding, Cuttyhunk, Loving Bliss, & Culture

Is friendliness a form of troopbonding? 

 ~ John Money's (Oxford 1988) "Concepts of Determinism" suggests that all humans share these exigencies of existence - pairbondage, troopbondage, abidance, ycleptance, and foredoomance, and that we use these strategies to cope with the exigencies above - engaging, avoiding, and explaining (adhibition, inhibition, explication). 

~ So is friendliness an engagement with each other vis-a-vis troopbonding (bonding together in groups, which humans have always done), in culturally familiar ways vis-a-vis the word 'friend,' which can be extended and amplified, and even cultivated? So, to explain friendliness, it may involve engaging others warmly and avoiding unfriendliness. {Friends ~ scottmacleod.com/LovingBlissPractices.htm}. 

 Life is all troopbonding, and the other four exigencies. The bonding word is interesting, though. For Money, pairbonding includes ... {scottmacleod.com/anthropology/determinism.htm}. 

 Here's one example of troopbonding 

~ People just seem to like to mingle on the dock at the ferry arrival and departure on Cuttyhunk, even as they do the business of freight, and meet and say farewell to people. Does this mingling aspect reflect being together in ancestral environments over millions of years? 

 A pairbond with loving bliss? 

 There's a couple on Cuttyhunk whom I've known since they were babies (but I don't often think of them this way). The woman, and her twin sisters, used to live next door when they were four or five, and we had so much fun over a number of summers. I was teaching sailing during these summers. And as a couple now, they really (seem to) love each other, and seem to kind of generate loving bliss between them. It's impressive. They now have something like a 5 and 3 year old. (Is it their time of life for this as parents of young children?) She, in particular, seems to generate a lot of this loving bliss for them, and he's very receptive, and mutually warm. It's quite an interesting phenomenon on this island which is a little like a village in the winter, and not without its fractiousnesses and feuds. 

 Is this natural, mutual, loving bliss? 

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 When I got on the ferry to come to Cuttyhunk Island, Massachusetts, on Friday, I saw many old friends. One of whom I had known from birth, also, and I was her first yacht club instructor, when she was about five. We were talking with other friends, and she recalled how her first memory of me is of my balancing an oar (for rowing) on my chin. This woman is very good friends with the couple above, and they've all known each other since childhood. This woman is also quite content. {I think they all have good love lives}. 

 I was very playful, and fun, during my teen years and in my twenties on Cuttyhunk. It was a fun time. Lots of sitting in laps and playing with the above folks, and engaging life fully on this island. 

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Culture as register (for example, like music is a code in a different register than language) 

 Sometimes I think of 'culture' as a kind of register, a shared code with its own internal (neurophysiological?), unique understandings among people. Cuttyhunk Island, Massachusetts, and Harbin Hot Springs in northern California, each have their own versions of this, which includes language, history, understandings of how individuals in the communities think, what they like, and how they work. In and out - insiderness or inclusivity and outsiderness or exclusivity vis-a-vis the group - play roles in these 'subcultures' (Hebdige), but each 'register' is unique to their respective 'places,' in these 2 instances. This 'register' way of conceiving of 'culture' can, and has been problematic historically, as groups come into conflict (over misunderstandings of the other's 'register', - since we started traveling a lot (in modernity, for example)? And in overcoming problematic aspects of human life like racism, I see 'registers' change and develop. 

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 Common Atlantic slippersnail ~ www.eol.org/pages/593855 ~ Crepidula fornicata (Linnaeus, 1758) It's a nice shell found on Cuttyhunk ...

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